We know being in relationship and managing a joint life is not easy specially when both partners have busy and demanding careers or commitments. Life can feel like a challenge everyday…
I created the Successful Couple Strategy™ (the Successful Couple Process™ revised) from the work I do with couples assisting them create their successful relationship. It incorporates key concepts from established clinical theories and therapies, wellness and success insights and principles, and my proven processes, techniques, and tools.
It helps intimate partners easily get on the same page, become a stronger partnership and increase their connection, intimacy and fun. Partners get to fall in love with each other again, and enjoy peace, joy, and love in their home and create a life of meaning.
The Strategy flows from my MetroRelationship™ Philosophy where the Relationship is the cornerstone of our Life… There is inherent synergy in our partnership, which usually goes untapped… Our partner is our life Partner… Our partner is a Gift for our own evolution… They are the mirror to show us how we are being so we can see how we need to change.
They are the playmate in the playground that is our relationship. They are the sand in our clam. They are the perfect match to trigger our sensitivities so we now have another chance to get what we didn’t get growing up. When we get our core needs met, we heal. When we stretch to meet that of our partner, we grow.
As we evolve together we can create something amazing, of amazing impact… We do this through role modeling and being inspiring as a couple, through our (co)parenting, and through taking on a Cause for larger impact to humanity. But this can’t take place if we don’t crack the code on how to do our relationship well!
Partners have the tendency to go about their relationship with blinders on missing out on the opportunities for healing and growth. They miss the forest for the tree. They get stuck in their perspective and their usual MO in their interactions, viewing and treating each other like enemies as opposed to using this as the vehicle of possibilities that it is…
The key is to approach our partner as an ally, as our Partner, from a heart-centered place… From here we get that we are in this together, for a reason, and that being vulnerable and working together makes all the difference. Therefore we can have compassion for our mutual experience… This is the essence of our Human experience…
When we miss this, we are not really living our Life… It’s time to Awaken and live the life you were meant to live!
The Successful Couples Strategy™
The Strategy is comprised of five core Elements that when assimilated and integrated into the relational approach create a transformation, not only for the relationship but also for the overall quality of life of the partners and the couple. The more the Elements are embraced the quicker and more profound the change…
Element 1 – Context: Empower Your Self
Do you feel stuck and yearn for more in your relationship?
Shift your relationship mindset and break the impasse
Element 2 – Communication: Be Heard and Validated
Do you experience frequent misunderstandings?
Effortlessly get on the same page and better get each other
Element 3 – Clarity: Get Your Needs Met
Do you have recurring conflicts and disagreements?
Understand why you have recurring dissatisfying interactions and change the pattern
Element 4 – Connection: Become More Connected
Do you feel lonely, taken for granted, and unappreciated?
Reignite your love, deepen your intimacy and enhance your passion
Element 5 – Collaboration: Create Your Dream Life
Are you carrying the brunt of the responsibilities in your home?
Create a sustainable rock solid partnership and enjoy a peaceful, loving and inspiring home
Each Element addresses a significant relationship factor that when operating haphazardly and unintentionally tends to undermine the wellbeing of the partners, the couple and their success. How is your relationship foundation? Are your core relationship factors established purposefully and intentionally? Or is your relationship built on a house of cards and running on fumes?
It’s time to pay attention and add some intentionality to your relating. Make sure your Relationship Succeeds!
> Boundary setting and getting needs met:
Take a step back and analyze your relationship for the Gift it’s supposed to be for YOU.
Do you get how it’s a gift? Do you see what it’s supposed to do for you? Do you see how you can use it for your healing and growth? Do you see the opportunities for these day in and day out? Do you see how your partner is your life Partner?
When you get beyond the minutia of life and break the impasse in your relationship, what do you think you’ll see as the purpose of your union? What higher calling might be involved? What action can you take today to honor that?
This line of thinking is not for the faint of heart… If this is beyond your capabilities right now because of the status of your relationship, don’t worry you are not alone. Just know that miracles do happen, and this too shall pass. Just be open to the idea that this is just a bump on the road, and that awesomeness is in store for you.
Also, make sure you do what you are supposed to do to make changes in yourself and your relationship… Make sure you own what you contribute to the status quo and move mountains to change your side!
Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome and radiant relationship, and authentic and meaningful life…
Happy Transforming!
~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Identify what Element of the Successful Couple Strategy™ needs your attention:
Element 1 – Context: Empower Your Self
Shift your relationship mindset and break the impasse
Element 2 – Communication: Be Heard and Validated
Effortlessly get on the same page and better get each other
Element 3 – Clarity: Get Your Needs Met
Understand why you have recurring dissatisfying interactions and change the pattern
Element 4 – Connection: Become More Connected
Reignite your love, deepen your intimacy and enhance your passion
Element 5 – Collaboration: Create Your Dream Life
Create a sustainable rock solid partnership and enjoy a peaceful, loving and inspiring home
Explore ways to bring this Element to par. Select one and create an actionable item around it to implement immediately and start your transformation!
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, she is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful Couple™ content that assist couples succeed at their relationship and their life. Stay Connected™ with Emma and receive weekly Connection Notes in your inbox with Personal Growth and Relationship Enrichment insights and strategies, visit: www.metrorelationship.com.
