SUCCESSFUL COUPLESGet On the Same Page & Create a Satisfying RelationshipCreated by Emma K. Viglucci, M.A., MFT, CFT Marriage and Family Therapist, Writer and Speaker Relationship Success Expert: Assists Couples Succeed at their Relationship Founder & President of Metropolitan Wellness Services, Inc. http://www.metrowellnez.com Call us at 646-228-8782 or Click Here |
The way we like to receive love might be very different from the way our partner likes to receive love. This is a sure way of not reaching our partner!... Therefore it is important to determine how our partner likes to receive love and for us to gift them the way they like to be gifted. We might just be handing them a world of love!
TABLE OF CONTENTS - Nurturing Nugget
- Welcome Notes
- Feature Item: How Do I Want to Be Loved
- Related Activity and Meditation/Visualization
- Affirmations for Couple Success
- Resources for Couple Success
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1. NURTURING NUGGET
Pick 3 concrete behaviors for gifting your partner between now and Valentine's Day to show them you love them.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 2. WELCOME NOTES
~ WELCOME to another issue of Successful Couples! And welcome to the MANY new subscribers!!
As the new year is underway it is already bringing tons of new opportunities, growth and excitement in its wake. I am thrilled to announce the launching of Project Bulldog(sm). Ellen Takacs, M.A., Anger Expert, and I are collaborating on a new research and psychotherapy project addressing the treatment of anger in relationships. We are creating an innovative approach to the resolution of anger to safeguard relationships and assist in their growth potential. We are looking for 10 couples to participate in the research project by receiving this effective, results-oriented, and comprehensive treatment, and are inviting you to consider this amazing opportunity. For further details on the project or to sign up, visit us at http://www.projectbulldog.com or call us at 646-369-0759.
The Successful Couples(sm) Workshop Series is also underway and the next workshop is held Saturday, March 18, 2006 from 1:30–4:00 pm, at our NYC office, for $80 per couple. The workshop is entitled 'Spring' Your Relationship to Life: Communication, Conflict Resolution and More! Here you will learn tons of relationship skills and get resources to jump start getting on the same page and feeling alive again in your relationship! For further details and to register, visit: http://www.metrowellnez.com/EVENTS.htm or call me at 646-228-8782. Use this fantastic resource in your relationship building journey - join our Family of Couples today! This is a good way to expand your support system, meet new people, and add another dimension to your relationship. Clients are welcome.
My bringing tips on Relationship Success to more people Campaign continues to go exceptionally well. I have a ton to share! I presented at the College of St. Elizabeth, in Morristown, NJ, to women students on building relationship skills and self empowerment. Thank you ladies for a wonderful evening! I am also, presenting at the West Side YMCA, in NYC, on Wednesday, March 8th, at 6:oo pm on 'Spring' Your Relationship to Life: More Intimacy, Romance and Fun. This workshop is open to the public and you are invited to join us! For additional information and to register contact: Abbey Robarge at mailto:arobarge@ymcanyc.org or 212-875-4218 (mention Relationship Seminar).
I also continue to be popular with the media! I was featured on the Spring/Summer 2006 issue of New Home Magazine in an article about couples building and renovating homes and giving advice on how to go about such massive projects and enjoying the process. Check it out! And, I'm going to be on the air on March 2nd on The Jaci Rae Show on Artistfirst Radio Network, 8 - 8:30 pm PST / 11 - 11:30 pm EST, sharing Tips for Relationship Success and to "Spring" Your Relationship to Life! To tune in visit: http://www.jacirae.com/jacishow.html and click on the Simulcast Live link!
I am really enjoying myself with this Reaching Out to Couples Campaign and am looking forward to meeting and helping a ton of more couples! I am available for more speaking and presenting engagements, so if you or someone you know is interested in having me come speak on how to create a Successful Intimate Relationship, please contact me to discuss. You may view my “Speaker Sheet†for additional information: http://www.metrowellnez.com/SpeakerSheet.pdf. The topic and presentation is tailored to the audience.
Hard work is not all that is going on at this neck of the woods. I will be traveling out of the country for Valentine's Day and staying away for a much deserved vacation for two weeks! We are going to Argentina and will be enjoying the Argentine azado some tango music and the great sites, can't wait! Until then and the next issue!
In this issue I am writing about style of giving and receiving love! Read on!!
Your next issue will come in March. Until then, wishing you much Love, Romance and Fun!!
As always I want to thank all of you who forward this publication to loved ones. Please note that your loved ones automatically receive 5 BONUS RESOURCES for Couple Success when they sign up. Continue to share the love and the resources, hit the forward button now! Thank you!!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 3. FEATURE ITEM: How Do I Want to Be Loved
It is not unusual for couples to flounder on showing their love for each other. They do their best with attention giving, gifts, nurturing acts, and other loving gestures, but they just don't feel they have reached their partner. Their love is not visible to the other. The other might even say things like: you don't love me, you don't find me attractive anymore, you don't want me, or you hate my guts.
How does this happen? Here we are loving a person and doing our best to show them we love, cherish and want to be with them to fail miserably at conveying that message. This is even worse when compounded by difficulties and lack or relationship skills partners bring to the table.
But, it doesn't have to be this difficult to show our love. It doesn't have to be this difficult to let our partner in our love for them. I have recently come across a book to address just this issue (thanks Ellen for the recommendation!). It is called the Five Love Languages (refer to the resources section). This book teaches us that there are five ways in which partners like to receive love: time spent together, receiving material gifts, receiving compliments and verbal acknowledgement, physical affection, and acts of service (taking care of business, e.i., walking the dog, food shopping, servicing the car, etc.).
There are specific ways we like to receive love, but what we usually tend to do is give love the way we like to receive love. The way we like to receive love might be very different from the way our partner likes to receive love. This is a sure way of not reaching our partner! Let's say for example that Partner A likes to receive love in the form of elaborate gifts, and that Partner B likes to receive love in the form of praise. Now, imagine this couple giving each other what they like to receive themselves: Partner A will get a bunch of words that could be experienced as lip service and no follow through; Partner B will get an expensive gift that could be experienced as shallow and detached.
Therefore it is important to determine how our partner likes to receive love and for us to gift them the way they like to be gifted. We might just be handing them a world of love!
Happy Loving!!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 4. RELATED ACTIVITY AND MEDITATION/VISUALIZATION
Discuss with your partner the idea of giving each other love the way each of you likes to receive love: time spent together, receiving material gifts, receiving compliments and verbal acknowledgement, physical affection, or acts of service. You might enjoy receiving love in more than one way. Identify your top two and share what are examples of the things that would fall under those categories. Be very specific (i.e., hold my hand when we go to the movies) so you each know how to start better gifting each other with your love!
~~ In my meditation today, I envision my partner and I in a moment of closeness, glowing with love and tenderness for each other.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 5. AFFIRMATIONS FOR COUPLE SUCCESS
~~ I love my partner
~~ We easily share and feel our love for each other
~~ We deeply, genuinely, wholeheartedly, and consciously love one another
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 6. RESOURCES FOR COUPLE SUCCESS
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Note: This newsletter provides insights and resources for couples at all levels of satisfaction in their relationship. It assists couples enhance their relationship, maintain changes, and nurture the relationship and themselves. The content of this newsletter is just food for thought, a source of inspiration and ideas, and a resource. It is not intended in anyway to be therapeutic or a substitute for professional assistance. The content is provided under the assumption the reader is involved in a non-abusive committed long-term relationship. Please refer to our website’s Disclaimer and Conditions of Use. If you believe you require further assistance than is provided here, please hire a Couple Therapist or other relevant professional. We specialize in working with Couples - you may contact us at 646-228-8782 or Click Here.
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